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Taking Time to Take Care of Yourself

On last night’s action-packed (seriously) season finale of Marriage Boot Camp, Gloria became the first person to not give back her partner’s ring, leaving Mark understandable upset.

And the Twitterverse, with Jim joking (sort of?):

Honestly, I wasn’t all that shocked that Gloria and Mark didn’t stay together, though I do have to commend Gloria for her reasoning: “I need to take time for me.”

At first, this seems kind of selfish, especially because I think Mark really did grow and really pored his heart out to her only moments before being crushed. But her whole point was that while the two of them had both grown as individuals, they hadn’t grown together as a couple, and she still had a lot of work to do in order to make their (or any) relationship work.

As Jim and Elizabeth said, and their production company later tweeted:

Usually, the best decision is the hardest one to make. We see Gloria say that she isn’t sure if walking away from her marriage to Mark would just be running away from another problem. Some fixes for problems seem easy, but they aren’t necessarily the right ones.

But this isn’t really about choices. This is about taking care of ourselves. How do we know when it’s time to “take time for me”? Continue reading

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Things We Can Learn from Reality TV

I often get mocked for my trash-TV fixation. I just can’t help it! I love really horrible reality (and not-so-reality) TV shows, from cooking contests like Chopped or Cutthroat Kitchen to those that follow people attempting to grow and change like My Strange Addiction to the ever-popular relationship-based shows like Southern Charm and Bridezillas. I don’t care how sensationalized some of these shows are, I love them.

Lately, I have been hooked on Marriage Boot Camp. My mom and I watch it all the time, much to my father’s chagrin. He sleeps through it and sometimes even outrightly makes fun of us (read: me) for tearing up during the show.

The thing is, I feel like I’m learning a lot about relationships and how to make them healthy just by watching Mai-Lee, Tomas, Blanca, Julian, Gloria, Mark, Sofia, Shaun, Tasha, and Jeff try to navigate their feelings, failings, and futures with Jim, Elizabeth, and interchangeable co-director set #2 (okay, these guys are cute but I can’t remember their names and, like the ones on Season 1, they serve limited functions and are totally replaceable, so. . .sorry?).

I didn’t get into MBC until season 2 started, really, so I’ve recently binge-watched the first season, as well. My mom and I spend a lot of time talking about what we can actually learn and take-away to our own relationships. Some of their advice is definitely very partner-based (like how to make sex happen), while other parts are more centered on an individual and can help viewers to improve themselves regardless of whether they are in a relationship.

Forgiveness. Image from Krexy.com, used under Creative Commons license.

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